An embarrassing length of time ago, someone asked me to write a blog about anal preparation. So finally I am going to present to you the methods that work well for me when learning/preparing for anal. Before I start I like to add a little disclaimer and say that I do not believe these methods will work for everyone, nor am I encouraging you to use them, I am simply answering a question publicly. This blog is a combination of advice given to me by Phoenix Marie and Ann, and my own exploration.
When I first started working on Anal my boyfriend was very supportive, of course, so I had help from the beginning. If you’re solo on this don’t worry, you don’t really need anyone to help you physically. Its just good for the motivation :)
If being afraid of your own poop is keeping you from trying this out, then you want to buy an enima/douche, a reusable one is best because I only use water to enima. You can also use a regular enima that you can empty out and fill with water. I use water because the solution in the enima’s will fill you with a solution that will make everything turn to diarrhea basically. So you only want to use that when you really need it like if you’re really constipated. But just for general clean up when you practicing just enima until it runs clean. (I’ll talk more about this later)
A good toy to use for stretching is a set of small butt plugs. I would really only recommend using them for when you are just beginning. You want to start with something that has a good taper, nothing that will stretch too quickly. You’ll be able to tell just by looking at them. That’s better for quicker stretching but you can also use dildos if you can find one that doesn’t exceed the widest point of your stretch kit, that is, unless you want to stretch more, but keep in mind that dildos are not tapered the same way.
Ultimately, you want to avoid using butt plugs. If you can stretch without them its better for you. When you’re preparing, the muscle you want to focus on stretching is your sphincter muscle (your buttonhole itself). When you use butt plugs they only stretch your sphincter if you haven’t pushed the butt plug all the way in so that it can remain inside hands free. If you make it a habit of stretching that way you end up really stretching your colon which already has a natural elasticity to it. This puts you at risk for prolapsing which is what happens when your colon is pushed out of your asshole. So again just try to use something that will only stretch the sphincter and not the colon such as dildos and butt plugs called Dilators (my preference).
So when I started I was most of the time I would practice because it just helps to be as relaxed as possible. Another thing I suggest for when you first start stretching is to use numbing creams if you are having difficulty, two I know of are Tush Eze, and Anal Eze. Basically it just numbs wherever you apply it so you can stretch a little more than usual. It isn’t strong enough that you will over stretch or tear and not realize it, it’s just a light numbing agent. Never push yourself to the point of pain, and become familiar with the difference between pain and discomfort because you will feel discomfort at times but you shouldn’t be in pain. It is hard to concentrate on completely relaxing your asshole and can take practice, learn to embrace the feeling of the stretch and try using clit stimulation to help.
I feel that practicing is easier by yourself because you are able to push yourself farther in the beginning. Its hard trusting someone, even someone you care because its a foreign feeling and they cannot feel if you are in pain. That’s my opinion, I found it easier when I put myself it pain versus someone else putting me in pain and me trying to relate what not to do. Not to mention you save yourself from feeling any embarrassment (if you’re self conscious in trying this) Trust me, try it.
Once you can handle something the size of a dick, you can try to go for it, but just take it extremely slow and use other methods of stimulation, it will make the experience far more enjoyable. I recommend being in control of the situation, by this I mean pick a position that will give you full control over the movement. I like to be in doggy and then I will push back at my own pace and let my partner be stationary.
From there on out its just preference, and knowing your partner etc.
If you like to clean out ahead of time, maybe the night/day before heres what I think you should know. This part of anal is different for everyone. You should be aware of your body and its metabolism, how long does it take it to fully digest your meals? It isn’t hard to notice this pattern once you start looking for it. I digest food slowly so I will prepare differently than someone who has a very fast metabolism. For instance, I notice that I usually don’t poop until the afternoon time, so that tells me that the food I ate for dinner the night before was digesting all night and by the time lunch rolls around its finally digested. Because of my slow metabolism I have to stop eating earlier in the evening the night before an anal scene. I find between 5-6 pm is a good time to stop eating, if I wait any later I notice the difference when I clean out the following day. Get to know your body so you can figure out how to plan your eating schedule accordingly.
The night before I will enima until the water runs clean, I don’t even sweat it since I stop eating so early. I squeeze a lot of water up each time, you won’t get all the water out of you that night. Overnight excess water in your colon is breaking down other poop so when you wake up you usually don’t have to enima very much more. You’ll be able to tell when you’re cleaned out because you can push will all your might and not feel any pressure buildup waiting to push something out. At that point i would enima with only a little amount of water so that you’re only rinsing a short distance into your colon at most twice or until water runs clear, but don’t use a full enima in the morning. While you’re having sex later, the excess water that was trapped in your colon will be trickling down if you’re in an upright position which will cause leakage during sex.
You can prepare in these ways if you choose but its all personal preference when it comes to hygiene and how well you clean out etc.
An additional option when preparing for anal is taking Immodium. It basically keeps you from pooping by dehydrating you, used for diarrhea etc. This pill works really well for me if I need to use it, I try not to use it unless I need to because it usually stops you up for about a day and i can’t be bloated and working. But as long as you eat you’ll start up again regularly sometime the next day. In my opinion everything in moderation is fine but I don’t recommend using immodium on a regular basis. If you do use it, follow the directions on the package and note that it causes drowsiness. Drink LOTS of water with it to ensure your back on a regular cycle once its out of your system.
Snacking: Gummy Bears, chewy candy, liquids (non dairy is best), and consume food/drinks with stimulants with discretion because they can make you poop. So that means, coffee, energy drinks, tea, smoking, etc. you get it.
Night before meal: Eat something light when you do eat and if you must snack after hours, eat soup or have a popsicle, avoid things your body will turn into poop, basically.
I hope I don’t have to apologize for length at this point, it should be pretty obvious that most of my posts are a little wordy. But thats to get my exact point across and address any questions beforehand to give you a complete blog of what I know on the topic of Anal. So thanks for taking the time to read this, hopefully it helps someone, especially the person who asked me.
So again this is what works for me but everyone does it a little differently.
Feel free to ask me to elaborate more on anything :)